Welcome to the Jungle!

Hi. My name is Jen and I'll be your guide. Here's your standard-issue machete.

I may not know the ins and outs of this land all that well, but I've found some pitfalls that Harry himself couldn't cross with a rope, and I know where I need to walk gingerly. You may find some of the same ones, or some different ones, or may have few difficulties navigating the terrain at all, but it does seem to help to find other travelers to trade stories with.

What is this place?

It's a place from the point of view of Monogamous partners of Polyamorous people - to see that there are others like you, with their own ups and downs, who can relate to your (or similar) circumstances.

It's also a place for the Poly partner - to maybe gain some insight into what makes their Mono partner tick when they may be having trouble articulating it.

It's a place for both to give alternative points-of-view if there are others I have not considered.

It's a place that acknowledges that it's not always a walk in the park, without judging you and saying that you shouldn't be here if you can't handle it.

It's a place that acknowledges that you don't always know you can't handle something until you try it and work through the difficulties (or not).

It's a place for me to share my own map of the land, as it were - to tell my own stories, good and bad. Uplifting and embarrassing.

It's a place to provide resources for folks who may not have realized resources exist. Not maps, per se, but general information. Think flora and fauna guides, and how much you really appreciate knowing what poison ivy looks like.

Who am I?

I'm someone who likes analogy and metaphor. Obviously. My vivid imagination rivals that of Walter Mitty, although no films have been made about my life... at least, as far as I know.

I'm a forty-something divorced mother of two who fell in love with her best friend, who happens to be poly.

I'm a logical, pragmatic person. Except when I'm not.

I am coming to terms with the negative parts of myself, realizing what bugs me and what I really can handle, and I am finding that I like myself a lot more than when I buried or ignored these things.

I am human. I have ups and downs. I am not a voice of authority, but I do have a small level of experience, and maybe... just maybe, it can help someone else.

I am also a wicked sarcast and self-proclaimed Queen of Horrible Jokes. Consider this a warning.


Anyhoo... Time to get yer pith helmet on and get moving! And watch where you're swinging that machete! Please feel free to explore the older posts, and look at some of the links pointing to other, not-so-distant lands. Next post... dead ahead!

1 comment:

  1. I've been following along for a few months. 40 something mother of two practically grown children. I have been married 22 years and within the last year or so he has decided that he isn't strictly monogamous. I disagree with the belief that no one can be everything to their partner as I desire absolutely nothing else. So as you can imagine I am struggling mightily with him wanting someone else.

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