tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3538552199728475689.post4825273176958227062..comments2021-01-11T04:56:39.749-05:00Comments on From Baltic to Boardwalk: My Mono/Poly Journey: The Insidious "S" - WordUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3538552199728475689.post-68318270912986557522014-09-08T19:26:34.182-04:002014-09-08T19:26:34.182-04:00Thank you so much for listening to the show and fo...Thank you so much for listening to the show and for having the conviction to post your own experiences about it. One of the strengths of the poly community lies in the diversity of our experiences, and the more we share those, the more people will realize they are not alone in their identities and beliefs.<br /><br />And agreed that some people like yourself aren't comfy with "fake it 'til you make it." I've found it helpful, but others might not--to each her own! <br /><br />And I apologize if we weren't clear about the three D's, which were actually Discuss, Distract, Do. The idea was to talk with your partner in advance of the event to air out your fears and concerns (discuss), distract yourself with a special treat of whatever form is meaningful to you (distract) and then reinforce your comment to your partner after the event with some emotional and sexual bonding (do him/her!).<br /><br />And agreed that the distract part should be something that is special, sacred or meaningful to you. I've heard folks get really excited when they realize they can finally take a long bubble bath in a quiet house! Others take the time to indulge in a neglected hobby they find fulfilling, such a drawing or painting. Still others enjoy the license to go have a wild night out with friends. Agreed that whatever the distraction is, it should be meaningful and fulfilling to YOU.Minxhttp://www.polyweekly.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3538552199728475689.post-69022732477236491292014-08-12T13:25:47.615-04:002014-08-12T13:25:47.615-04:00Thank you SO much. I have been in a vacuum of seem...Thank you SO much. I have been in a vacuum of seemingly unending despair since my husband (of 12 years) came out as poly last week. Reading this made me feel like I just got a hug from someone. Keep writing. People need to hear this.Cnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3538552199728475689.post-80506762626582925212014-08-09T12:19:24.575-04:002014-08-09T12:19:24.575-04:00I love love this blog!!! Thank you, I can so relat...I love love this blog!!! Thank you, I can so relate. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com